New York can be the city of dreams… and nightmares.
Whether you were born here or came from elsewhere, you have spent some foundational years of your life in this vibrant, chaotic, often unforgiving, and richly diverse place we call home.
Far from being the inspiring, romantic, and fun place that it once was, you are reading this because things are not going as planned.
There is a desire to reach your highest potential in one of the world’s largest multicultural hubs and be inspired by the wide variety of experiences available.
You know that if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere. But attaining a sustainable lifestyle that can give you a sense of accomplishment, freedom, security, and belonging to the city is no easy feat.
Lost yourself in the process of seeking something special.
The workday is never shorter than 10 hrs. The rapidly paced, highly demanding, and competitive work culture leaves you with little energy left to focus on personal aspects of your life.
The demands of your job and the high standards you have set for yourself end up “bleeding” into your personal life.
Although it’s fundamental to build a reputation for yourself as a reliable and hardworking team member, lately you have been feeling like your energy and ability to be present are decreasing.
Balance and boundaries are nonexistent.
Family and friends notice that you have difficulty setting boundaries and saying no to work-related or networking assignments after hours.
It’s hard to relax, and you can’t let go of thoughts and ideas related to work.
Your mind is constantly thinking about the next big thing and what you need to do to get even farther ahead.
Worries about performance override the needed hours of sleep.
There is no balance between personal and relational needs.
Caught in golden handcuffs.
Hard work is needed to achieve a comfortable lifestyle that can give you a sense of security and prosperity.
Having access to quality goods and services is important to you. For understandable reasons, you want to enjoy the pleasant things of life and share memorable experiences with your friends and family.
However, achieving this comes at a high cost, which is your freedom to do what you love doing most of the time.
A lot of time and energy have been invested in having landed where you are today, and it feels impossible to change your situation without changing jobs or taking a massive pay cut, which would put your lifestyle at risk.
Frustration increases as you consider you might be shackled to a job or line of work to which you are not fully connected and is taking up all your energy and time. But you keep the job to sustain the lifestyle that you currently have.
Success cannot provide fulfillment and connection.
There is no problem accepting that what you like most about your job is the lifestyle it affords you. Ironically, you don’t seem to have enough to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
Work is work, so you know it is impossible to be constantly happy with your job all the time. But you have a sense that maybe you are missing out on something important in your life.
Perhaps it is a sense that you are not doing something meaningful with your time.
For at least 8 hours every day, there is a feeling that your life is unfulfilled or disconnected.
Fulfillment and connection are possible.
Therapy helps you refine your communication skills and how you deal with your emotional and mental blocks. Through therapy, you learn to keep your mind tempered and focused on what is important to you.
It’s about having a healthy work/life balance that allows you to succeed in your career and relationships. You also want to attain moderation in the consumption of goods and experiences.
Feeling like your best effort is enough, regardless of other people’s opinions, is the goal. Along the same line, you want to stop worrying about what other people think of you and how they compare you to others.
Gaining emotional control helps you gain the respect and trust of others. Moreover, it helps you stop second-guessing yourself when making decisions.
Like all young professionals, you want to be successful, yet feel you are a good person, one who is not selfish but warm and available to those about whom you care. It’s also about making meaningful contributions to your community and society at large.
Help is available.
We offer practical help to young professionals in their mid-20s through late 40s find meaning, set boundaries, gain clarity and emotional stability, and a healthy work-life balance so they can make the most of their life in New York City.
If you are ready to start making actionable changes that will help you become a better version of yourself, call now (917) 268-9213.